Improve Relationships
Individual Counselling for Dating or Relationship Issues
Are you having difficulty feeling connected?
Do you really want to find someone to share your life with but confused about why it can feel so difficult?
You may be confused or frustrated about the reasons you keep experiencing anxiety, dissatisfaction, feelings of abandonment or disinterest in your relationships.
You may be wondering why you seem to attract the same types of people when you end up feeling let down and hurt by them. Or maybe you’re the one that feels like you keep hurting others when you ultimately loose interest, cheat or leave relationships with the hopes of finding someone better suited.
If you are single and struggling with any of these issues, therapy can be helpful.
- Relationships feel difficult for you and you’re unsure of the reasons why.
- You are noticing patterns of choosing partners that aren’t right for you.
- You’re frustrated with relationships that have ended painfully.
- You begin relationships hopeful but quickly feel unsure and begin to pull away.
- You are struggling to heal from a difficult breakup.
- You often feel let down in relationships and wonder if you’re asking for too much.
- Your relationships are either filled with conflict, or feel distant and lacking in intimacy.
- You wonder whether you are attracting people who are not ready for a committed relationship.
- You often feel lonely and long for a loving relationship.
- You’re having doubts that you will ever have a loving and satisfying relationship.
- You feel confused about what you’re doing wrong or how you may be choosing the wrong partners.
Why do some people struggle with relationships?
People struggle in relationships for many different reasons including but not limited to :past hurt and neglect, unprocessed trauma,lack of self awareness, difficulties accessing and expressing needs.
Some of the difficulties may be due to lack of insight about their needs and how to have them met, choosing partners that are not suited to them or perpetuating hurtful attachment patterns from their pasts.
How can therapy help?
Depending on your unique situation, therapy can help in a variety of ways.
If you have recently ended a relationship and having difficulty processing this loss we will first focus on the distress you’re experiencing and the problems this ending is having in your life. We will discuss ways of helping you cope and recover from the painful emotions you are experiencing.
Maybe you are not currently in crisis but at a point where you want to better understand yourself and address issues of self-doubt and loneliness that have held you back from creating a happier and more loving life. Therapy can provide a space to feel heard without any motivation or judgment other than supporting you to cultivate what you want for yourself. Therapy can help you better understand and honour your own complexity and uniqueness in order to gain a better honour and understand of yourself. As you begin to feel better acquainted with your own unmet needs, we can begin to explore your relationship history and see the patterns and triggers that may be hindering your attempts at intimacy.
The goal of therapy is to help identify and address fears, needs, values and blind spots which can help you in your attempts at deep and meaningful intimate relationships.
Understanding the experiences that have influenced us can bring valuable insight and perspective to our current situations. Without awareness we cannot make helpful changes to our current experiences. Self-knowledge, acceptance and commitment to ourselves can be a powerful shift towards making the kinds of choices that help cultivate the kinds of relationships and experiences we want for ourselves.
Left unexamined, our past tends to repeat even when we consciously want something different.
If you are ready to see how therapy can be helpful please be in touch via email or book your first appointment through the online booking system.